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My Pet Just Died; Can EFT Help Me Feel Better?

April 5, 2019 Leave a Comment Written by Juanita Ecker

My Pet Just Died; Can EFT Help Me Feel Better?

By Juanita Ecker

A neighbor knocked on the door. She was visibly upset because her cat was missing and they were frantically searching for him. He was very old and quite sick. They were concerned that without his medicine, he would have seizures. She gave me a flyer with the cat’s picture and her phone number to call if we should see the cat. The very next night, we opened the door to see if our company had arrived and there was her cat sitting on our porch. We immediately let the cat in and gave him some food and water. They were thrilled to have their loved pet returned to them. A week later, she knocked on the door again for one of her children had left the door open and the cat was gone. I suspected her cat kept escaping because he wanted to die on his own without seeing the pain it would cause his beloved family. They searched and searched for the cat, but he was never found. My neighbor was heart-broken over the loss.

If you have recently lost a pet, you know how painful it is. Losing a pet is never easy. How can we deal with the pain and grief when we loved our pet so much? When EFT tapping is used on pet loss grief, it can shift the energy and release those painful emotions. The tapping is a way to nurture yourself during this difficult time. Here are few things you can tap on when you have recently lost a pet.

The loss you feel. You can use the tapping to reduce the intensity of the emotions you are feeling. Maybe you are feeling sad, angry, upset, hopeless or depressed. Whatever emotions are coming to mind, you can tap on those feelings and release them from your body.

Missing your loyal friend. Our pets are extremely loyal to us and that loyalty is a wonderful sense of comfort. Your pet never judged you and gave you unconditional love. Losing that loyal friend can be a heavy burden to carry. Tap on all the love your pet had for you and your family. Tap on the hurt because that love is no longer there.

Your regrets. Maybe you keep playing in your head what you could have done differently to save your pet. Maybe you are blaming yourself or someone else for what happened. Maybe you have regrets around some of the decisions you made when your pet was alive. Looking back, you wished you had done better. Tune into those feelings of regret or blame and tap on them.

The memories of your pet. When we are grieving, we tend to remember all the fond memories we had with our pet. It is a way of honoring our love for them. Yet, those memories can be painful. Maybe your dog always woke you at 6:00 am to go out. Maybe your cat always snuggled with you while you watched TV or read. Maybe you and your pet always went to the beach together. Whatever those memories are, tap on how it feels to be without your pet.

The reactions other people have to your grief. Sometimes the people around you don’t understand how much you loved your pet or what a big loss it is for you. They misunderstand the debilitating grief and it makes you feel even worse. Tap on comments people have made that have upset you. Examples could be “it was just a pet, go out and get another one or aren’t you over this yet?” Tapping on the reactions others have to your grief is a great way to help you cope with the loss.

You can never prepare yourself for the death of a pet. When you tap you won’t stop loving or missing your pet. The EFT tapping can make your grieving process more bearable and it can help you move from a feeling of sadness to a feeling of peace. Whenever you start to feel upset over losing your pet, take a few minutes to tap. Just know your heart can heal if you give it a chance.

To learn more how EFT Tapping can work for you, contact Juanita at image3@nycap.rr.com to schedule your free 20 minute strategy session.

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How Can I Overcome Disappointment with EFT?

February 1, 2019 Leave a Comment Written by Juanita Ecker

You Can Shift Your Disappointment with EFT Tapping

How Can I Overcome Disappointment with EFT?

By Juanita Ecker

We all have had to learn to deal with disappointment in one form or another. Disappointments start when we are young and continue throughout our lives. Most of us have learned to accept those disappointments as part of life. See if you can relate to any of these scenarios: Maybe you wanted to go to a certain university but never got accepted there. Maybe you had your heart set on someone you loved who never reciprocated those feelings. Maybe you were vying for a promotion and were overlooked once again. Maybe you always wanted to have a child but it was never meant to be. Maybe you always wanted to play on a college sports team but never made the cut. Everyone is unique; your list of disappointments could be totally different from someone else.

I recently worked with Bella, a college student in her senior year of nursing school. (Her name has been changed). She dreamed of starting her nursing career in women’s health. Everything she had done up to this point had been to prepare her to work in that field. But unfortunately, she was assigned to pediatrics for her practicum internship in her final semester. She had this overwhelming disappointment; this was not what she had expected to happen. This assignment took away the excitement she once felt. She told me she started to question her beliefs. She kept asking herself “Am I not supposed to go down this path?” She was concerned how she could get a job in women’s health when her experience would be in pediatrics. She felt the opportunity to ever work in women’s health had been ripped away from her.

I asked Bella to give her disappointment a rating on the 0-10 scale. (At zero it is completely gone and at ten it is at its worst.) It was an eight. I then asked her to tune into her body and see if this experience reminds her of anything from the past. Two memories came up. She remembered being six years old and riding horses competitively. During one competition, she came in last. She remembered feeling tearful and embarrassed. From that experience, she created a belief about herself that if she is last, she is the worst. We tapped on the feelings she had when she was six.

Then, we tapped on a memory when she was in college. She had earned a horseback riding scholarship on a team that was one of the best in the nation. Even though it was an honor that she had qualified to be on this team, she didn’t feel that way. All she could focus on was that her skills didn’t compare with the rest of the team. She felt like she was at the bottom and therefore the worst of the team. I found it interesting that instead of viewing this situation as an opportunity to really hone her skills, she ended up quitting instead. We tapped on all of the emotions she was feeling around this event; feeling like a failure, feeling disappointed with herself for wanting to quit because her mother had been a champion rider and the feeling that she was letting her parents down.

Next we addressed her current feelings towards her internship: her anger at the person who did not assign her to a position in women’s health, the sadness and the sense of loss, the worry that she won’t get a job in the field she is interested in and her worry that she might not do well in pediatrics. After a few rounds of tapping, Bella’s intense disappointment started to shift. Her initial intensity of an 8 quickly came down to a 0.

The reason the nursing assignment felt so strong to Bella is because of the unresolved emotions stuck in her body from the two previous situations. Once we cleared the unresolved emotions from the past incidents, things began to shift for her. She said she felt lighter about it all and no longer had that heavy feeling in her chest. She also experienced a cognitive shift that wasn’t available to her prior to the tapping session. She said she now felt more positive about making the best of her current situation and no longer saw it as a dooms day scenario.

This story illustrates how a disappointment that you feel today, may be linked to disappointments from the past. Those unresolved emotions may prevent you from moving past the disappointment in the present. You don’t have to live with disappointment. EFT tapping is a tool that can make a profound difference in your life. When you are able to shift your perspective, how you see the world will change too.

To learn more how EFT Tapping can work for you, contact Juanita at image3@nycap.rr.com to schedule your free 20 minute strategy session.

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What to Expect in an EFT Tapping Session

September 13, 2018 Leave a Comment Written by Juanita Ecker

What to Expect in an EFT Tapping Session

By Juanita Ecker

Because EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is still relatively new, people are confused about what will happen in a tapping session. I thought it would be a good idea to explain how it works.

Here is a little background on EFT. EFT was developed about 25 years ago by Gary Craig. Its foundation is in Chinese medicine and acupuncture. Instead of needles, you tap gently with your fingertips on the meridian points (acupoints) on the surface of your skin. Tapping on the acupoints helps restore balance in the energy system. Focusing on a negative event or a bad memory while tapping helps remove the charge (the negative emotions)associated with that event or memory. In other words, the tapping allows you to release the emotional impact of those thoughts so that the memory no longer triggers you. This sounds complicated. Yet, tapping is very simple to do.

EFT tapping reduces stress and calms the nervous system. Research has shown that it is effective in addressing pain, phobias, trauma, among other problems. It can be used to calm down anxiety and reduce cravings. It can work on relationship issues, financial burdens or work-related stress. Whether it is money, relationships, career, health or body issues, EFT is a powerful technique that can help you get more out of life.

We all have unresolved emotions that are stored in our bodies. For example, think of something you wished never happened. When you think of that event, what emotion comes up for you? If what you are feeling is negative, then the energy of those unresolved emotions is still stuck in your body. The meridian tapping is a way to release those unresolved emotional hurts and reprogram the subconscious mind.

When clients first contact me, I offer a free 20-minute strategy session so that I can learn what you want to work on. During the consultation, you can ask questions, we will set realistic goals and we will see if it makes sense to work together. The sessions are done on the phone or with Skype. This saves the clients travel time and they can do the sessions from the comfort of their homes. This allows me to work with anyone no matter where they live.

So what really happens in a session? At the beginning of the session, I will ask, what is the most pressing issue right now? EFT tapping can address a variety of physical and emotional issues. Whatever is the most pressing issue for the client is where we start.

At the beginning of the session, you will be asked to tune into your body while thinking about the issue you want to address. I will ask you to give the emotion you are feeling a rating from zero to ten. This numerical rating is called a SUD (Subjective Unit of Distress) score. At 10, the emotion you are feeling is at its worst; at 0 it is completely gone. This SUD rating helps both of us measure the effectiveness of the techniques we are using during the session.

You tap along with me during the session; you tap on yourself as you follow my lead. We tap on the end points of the meridians on the face and torso. EFT sessions are relatively painless. You won’t have to dwell on painful memories for it to work. After a few rounds of tapping, I will ask you to tune in and see where your SUD number is now. We track when the number goes up, down or disappears. The goal is to get the SUD number down to 0.

In this or subsequent sessions, I will help you identify a specific event or a combination of events from the past that have contributed to the challenges you are experiencing now. Often there are many aspects to an event or an unresolved emotion. Think of the aspects as different parts of a story: the sights, smells, tastes, what we heard and what we felt. We diligently clear each aspect until it is down to 0 before we move on to the next. I am trained in 48 “clinical” EFT techniques that we can use to clear the unwanted emotions. I prefer to use the techniques that will help the client clear the issue as quickly as possible.

During the session, we will uncover core issues that play a role in how you view the world. We will tap on the limiting beliefs or the old behavior patterns that are holding you back. If you are working on a belief such as: I want to lose weight, I want to make more money or I want to meet a mate, etc. I am able to muscle test for you to determine if you are in agreement with your beliefs. Someone might say they want to lose weight yet their body is not congruent with that belief. It doesn’t matter how many affirmations or positive statements you make, if your body is not congruent with what you want to achieve, you will never achieve it.

If we find that you are incongruent with a belief, we will use the tapping techniques to reprogram your subconscious. The tapping removes beliefs from the subconscious mind that are not serving you and are actually blocking you from achieving the results you want. The tapping is a tool to turn those beliefs and behaviors that are no longer serving you into positive ones that do.

People often ask me if they will need more than one session. Some issues can be dealt with in one or two sessions. Issues that are deep-rooted, persistent or complex could take longer. I have found that when clients commit to four sessions, they typically experience a real breakthrough. The multiple sessions give them enough time to really feel a shift.

Clients love how they feel at the end of a session. What was once upsetting to them no longer triggers an emotional response. My clients tell me they feel calmer, happier and less stressed than they did at the beginning of the session.

Can EFT tapping create a one minute miracle? Probably not; however it could be the step you take to dramatically improve your life.

To learn more how EFT tapping can help you, contact Juanita at image3@nycap.rr.com to schedule your FREE 20-minute strategy session.

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